Self esteem is vital to a happy and healthy mental life. Healthy self esteem gives one a positive outlook on life, makes us more sociable and attractive because we feel good about ourselves, and therefore we feel good about others. People can feel you and WHO YOU ARE speaks louder than what you say. Watch people that draw a crowd, those who seem to have the most charisma, they are so darn comfortable with themselves, with their own futures and with exactly who they are, they do not need anyone to validate their own value back to them.
People FEAR change. What they say and HOW they inner mingle and re-act to those around them are clues to their own self-image. Do you believe in yourself? Do you give yourself the credit?
What do you believe about the following statements?
Most people around me have a better life than myself.
When people get to know me they do not like me.
I am afraid of being rejected by my friends.
My friends are smarter and better looking than myself.
If I disappeared, no one would miss me.
I feel worthless and useless.
I think I am a failure.
I wish I was smarter and better looking.
I like being myself.
How do we establish and create a healthy esteem? Do not try to please others. Be your own person. How can we maintain and keep your healthy self esteem? Try to avoid negative people.
Face your fears and learn from failures. How do you view yourself? Perception of yourself affects nearly everything you do, including your ability to cope with different challenging situations, your motivation
to do different things, and the types of situations and groups of people you seek out. Temperament, experiences and internalized messages from others affect how we view ourselves. You are no good to yourself or others if you are not healthy yourself. Begin to slow down and see things in a different light. Do less and begin to feel more. Think with your HEART and not your head so much. Create and keep healthy habits in your life and get rid of those things that keep you from the healthy habits. Understand that you have choices in everything you do.
Now that you know there are CHOICES at your disposal. Begin to make changes to see things change in your life and your potential coming to light. Peace with yourself, contentment with your circumstances will lead to an understanding of self esteem. Begin to ask for privacy when you need it.
Take more quiet time to read, rest and relax. Fulfill a secret dream you have. Begin to center your life on values you have established. Surround yourself with people who have similar life values and desires for their life.
You may not have considered this, but portrait photography can assist in creating self esteem. Allow someone outside of your circle to view you realistically. A portrait photographer can create a portrait that is really your true image! They will light you, pose you and photograph you in your best light and your best side. They may see angles and lines that show you off to great advantage. The image is you; the difference is that a professional portrait photographer brings out your inner beauty. The resulting image is flattering, attractive and complimentary.
Other people who see your photograph begin to look at you differently. Others will see beautiful things about you that they did not see before. Many people do not see themselves properly, they see a reflection in a mirror that is a one angle image and is reversed! But the photographer sees the nuances and angles that you do not know about and brings them out in the photograph to show off your inner beauty.
A photograph is a direct replica of reality; the camera sees the world as humans see the world. The camera can catch emotion, fatigue, as well as trauma. A trained photographer will become emotionally involved, enter your life and produce an image that tells a story. The photograph will speak your language in your own words. When you see the final result of a professional portrait photography session, you may be amazed! You will see you in a whole new way, and that boosts your self esteem. This becomes your visual affirmation.
Pamela D Bussi was born and raised in northern Montana along the hi-line. Writing, health, wellness and photography are her passions. Pamela is predominately a non-fiction writer with topics related to health, wellness and lifestyle. She resides with her husband and son in Bozeman, Montana. New York Institute of Photography is where Pamela received her formal photography training. Pamela and her husband are professional photographers in the Bozeman area. There studio is located at 2504 West Main, Suite K. She is a contributing author to Montana Healthy Living Magazine as well as a photojournalist for the Examiner at examiner.com and Power Women Magazine. Check out more information at www.pamelabussi.com and www.idealphotography.biz.
